It’s safe to say I’ve received – and read – more infidelity stories from men who have been cheated on than anyone else on the planet.
Been getting these stories since 2009. Guys write in each week. That’s a LOT of infidelity emails.
Some are short and to the point – others are long, meandering diatribes.
(Prefer watching a video instead of reading? Here you go:)
When we get cheated on, many of us are tempted to write very long letters to our wives, detailing our whole infidelity story: how we’re feeling, how what she did was wrong, perhaps how much we still love her, what we need from her now, how she could have done this, etc.
But we have to ask ourselves – what’s the result we’re trying to get?
If we want our wife to agree with everything we say in a very long letter, we’re often frustrated.
It’s just too much information.
So – if you think a letter is the best way to communicate to your wife, I suggest you use a strategy I learned from Tony Robbins.
It’s called Chunking.
Instead of writing 1 super long letter, break up the idea into bite size chunks, and write one letter for each chunk.
Make each one 1-2 pages max.
Give one of them to your wife, have her read it, sit down and talk about it. Ask if she needs you to clarify anything you’ve said. Listen to what she has to say. Try to see things from her point of view – without giving up yours.
90% of the time it works a lot better than writing a 10+ page thesis and expecting your wife to have empathy for everything you said.
Try it yourself.
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