By Kevin Jackson, Author of “Wife Cheated Report”
The Formula To Heal From Your Wife’s Cheating
If you’ve been cheated on, you feel emotionally devastated, betrayed, jealous, depressed, anxious… and more.
So today I’m going to share my 4 step formula to recover from your wife’s affair.
To be honest, there’s a helluva lot more to recovering than just these 4 steps – but these 4 are absolutely critical and trip up all too many guys.
By focusing on these four steps, you can focus on what’s most important to your healing… without getting (too) overwhelmed by emotion.
Here you go…
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Step 1: No Contact Message
Infidelity is a betrayal of commitment, which is why the first step towards repairing the relationship is to reestablish commitment. One tangible way to do so is through a “no contact message,” where your wife communicates to the other man via a text, e-mail, or phone call, telling him in no uncertain terms that it is over and that he should not contact her again.
If she does not agree to sending the “no contact” letter, you may need to play hardball and threaten to leave. The important point to remember is that it is very hard to move past her affair if she is still keeping her options open with the other man. And make sure you witness the message, rather than taking her word for the fact that she sent it.
Step 2: Full Access
In order to rebuild trust, your wife needs to give you full access to her phone, e-mail and Facebook accounts, and any other online accounts. If she resists it’s because: 1) She doesn’t want to be inconvenienced; 2) She doesn’t want you to see her history with the other guy; 3) She may still be seeing the other guy. None of these are valid excuses. Remind her that even though it’s uncomfortable to share, it will help you to reestablish trust moving forward together.
Step 3: Remorse
Your wife should feel a deep remorse for betraying you and hurting you.
If your wife doesn’t, it’s because either 1) She’s selfish and doesn’t care for your feelings; 2) She’s blaming you for the affair to get the attention off of her. Could be both. It’s important for the two of you to discover what underlies her belief that you are to blame: whether it’s her self-esteem or her frustrated marriage expectations.
Step 4: Disclosure
Your wife needs to tell you every detail you want to know about the affair. She may resist out of a desire to avoid hurting you further, but tell her that by being open and honest she will help you to make peace with the past. That way, instead of obsessing over unanswered questions, you will have all the answers you need. This can be an opportunity for her to earn back your trust. Remind her, as well, that you want to rebuild the marriage with her but need her help and honesty to do so.
These 4 steps to recover from a woman’s affair are a great place to start.
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– Kevin Jackson
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Kevin Jackson has helped thousands of men recover after their wife cheated. He is an internationally recognized relationship coach, a best-selling author and has designed a proven 4-step approach to successfully heal from infidelity. If your wife has cheated on you and you would like to recover as quickly as possible from her affair, Kevin has put together a free report designed specifically for you. You can get that free report now, by visiting http://www.WifeCheatedReport.com.